I know what it is like for a kid to suddenly decide they don’t like eating vegetables or they will not ever eat the crusts on bread. It is pretty universal for parents to have difficulty feeding their kids from time to time. It’s a normal development glitch and it is often related to a child’s growing independence.
It can be really daunting for a parent to change an entire families food choices.
It can be done, though. Our family has had a lot of success converting 90% of our meals (making up 99% of our food intake at home) to vegetarian and vegan.
Since I already cooked fairly eclectic meals, I was fairly certain that my eldest son would not really notice the absence of meat at the table. We already had a few vegetarian meals in rotation at that point and would visit vegetarian restaurants or simply choose vegetarian options often enough for it to be normal. The thing was concerned about was increasing his vegetable intake.
He was always a carb and meat eater. Except for broccoli, all other veggies were rejected from every meal. Pizzas were stripped of anything of health value and he would flat out refuse burritos, suspecting me of sneaking “green stuff” (guacamole) into them.
One thing whenever had a problem with was brown breads, pastas and rice. He simply grew up eating them, never knowing there was a different option. I’m not sure if he really notices if there is a difference if we have rice, bread and pasta out.
It’s this “brown norm” that makes me believe that children will happily eat what is offered to them, if what is being offered is what your family eats regularly.
We have recently seen this in action with salads.
Salads were never a regular part of meals at our house. I was a bit too lazy to make them. I don’t know why, because even plain lettuce with a bit of dressing is better than nothing. It’s no wonder, then, when I started introducing a little salad with some of our meals that my son refused to touch them. He not only refused, he acted as if the food might burn him or like we were forcing him to eat a tarantula!
After a few attempts, I gave up. That was a mistake.
I started up with the salads when we make our great vegetarian food change. At first my son would only eat a single piece of lettuce. But, I kept at it. I didn’t pester him. I would just ask that he try the salad. Eventually he was eating a few pieces of lettuce.
Dressings, multiple, have been my friend. When he was feeling secure enough to eat the veggies on his salad, but not adventurous enough to do it without help, he would make a big deal of “experimenting”, his word, with the different tastes of the dressings. A piece of roughage he wasn’t terribly fond of could be made palatable, even enjoyable, with a liberal application of dressing.
Eventually, he didn’t need quite so much dressing. He was eating more lettuce and volunteering to eat vegetables.
I never made separate meals for him, either. I try hard to create meals that are satisfying to everyone in the family. I make foods that are full of flavour and, hopefully, full of nutrition, too. If my son doesn’t happen to like what is being served, he is welcome to take one bite to confirm he doesn’t like it and then he is free to go food free. That’s the natural consequence to not being willing to eat a meal in my home.
We always eat as a family. On those days when I try to eat while sitting at our kitchen computer and multitask, with my son sitting near me at the kitchen table, he eats less and is more picky. Kids thrive on attention and they need to connect with parents and each other. Sitting together for a meal satisfies that need. I’m showing my son respect when we sit together. We can talk and laugh and connect emotionally. There have even been studies that show children who eat meals as a family are less likely to engage is risky behaviour later in life.
Another trick to getting kids to eat a meal or type of food is to get them involved in choosing the meal or parts of it and have them help prepare it.
My son, at 5, can operate the microwave with supervision. He is in charge of heating of veggie side dishes, if we are having things like corn from frozen. He also retrieves ingredients from the fridge while I cook and he has a stool he stands on beside me so that he can watch me prepare things.
I make a big list of all the meals I have ingredients for, lunch and dinner, and put it on the fridge. My son can then look at the list, choose something off of it and strike it off after we make it. This gives him power over what he gets to eat. Sometimes we must compromise and choose something that is not a big favorite, but he helps choose, just the same.
I have found that since I’ve started doing all of these, he is much more willing to eat that which he shunned not so long ago.
Here is a quick and dirty summary of how to help your kids change their eating habits:
- Keep offering rejected foods.
- Don’t act like the new food is special or strange.
- Don’t pester kids to eat.
- Establish a rule for testing foods such as the one bite rule.
- Don’t make separate meals for kids and adults.
- Eat as a family.
- Get kids to help.
- Give kids choices.
Wanna Win A Basket Of Food?
As you may have noticed over on the left there, I have a couple of blogs. On one of those, The Clever Mom, I’m having a contest to win a reusable grocery bin filled with a selection of food items.
The prize basket was generously provided by Loblaws who want to spread the word that they’ve reduced the prices of many of their grocery items. With the cost of shipping driving up the costs of food, this is a welcome move.
They’ve also begun a program called “Grown Close To Home” that is bringing local produce into their supermarkets. It’s about time the big stores started adding local produce. This is a win-win for everyone, in my opinion.
I’ve always been a fan of Loblaws for their President’s Choice premium house brand and their good quality yellow label brand – though I’ve started noticing the yellow label receding a little, I still think the products are pretty decent quality and good value.
So, if you want a chance to win the basket (I’m more excited about that basket, frankly, than the food inside!) go over to The Clever Mom now and post a comment listing your favourite kid snack (with recipe, s’il vous plait, and without nuts). Contest closes 9pm Friday, September 5.
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